Welcoming a foster child or teen into your home can overwhelm the new foster parents and children alike as they adjust to new surroundings and people. After they settle in, explain anything you want them to know about your home. This can ease their anxiety, especially if they’ve had challenging experiences in the past. Here are actionable ways to help you welcome foster kids and teens into your home and start building a positive and trusting relationship from the start.
Prepare a Care Kit Before Their Arrival
A care kit is a thoughtful way to help foster kids or teens feel seen and welcomed. Entering a new home can be intimidating, but a collection of small, meaningful items shows them that you care about them.
When deciding what to include in a hygiene kit, think about essentials like toothpaste, a toothbrush, and deodorant. Pair these with comforting items, like cozy socks, a journal, or even a small toy or trinket that suits their age.
Having things like sanitary products, body lotion, a new backpack, or school supplies already available for them can make a huge difference. Keep these on hand at all times, especially for emergency placements, to guarantee every child feels prepared and supported from the start.
Take Them Shopping for Personal Items
Giving kids and teens the freedom to choose their own items is a simple but effective way to help them feel in control. Whether it’s a few items of clothing, toiletries, or their favorite snacks, small decisions empower them during a time when so much may feel out of their hands. If it is a temporary placement, look for small stuff they can keep.
A shopping trip doesn’t have to be extravagant; you can set a budget while still giving them space to express their preferences. Consider letting them write a list of food they like or some new bedding or decor for their room to make their personal space feel like it belongs to them.
Build Trust Through Open Communication
Ask about their favorite hobbies, foods, or activities, and try to integrate their answers to show you’re listening. Don’t push them to share anything they’re not ready to talk about. Letting them talk at their own pace builds a sense of safety and respect.
Establishing a predictable routine can help them feel like they have some control. Let them know what to expect—whether it’s mealtimes, activities, quiet moments together, or upcoming visits with social workers or biological parents. Keeping them informed about these visits in an age-appropriate way helps them feel prepared. These small but intentional acts show them that their needs, opinions, and individuality truly matter.
Start Building a Lasting Bond
Making foster kids and teens feel welcome in your home begins with simple, intentional actions that prioritize their well-being, comfort, and sense of identity. Your efforts have a profound, lasting impact. Small gestures of care demonstrate that your home is a place where they belong.
